Tuesday 26 March 2019

Father - An equivocal emotion more than a mere relation


If mother is backbone of family then father is the brain. A body can not function without any of these. I always thought it would be very difficult to be just even half of what my father was. A person who served his family and job till the last breath. The day he felt critically ill, crippled me and it was very difficult for me to come out of his shadow and drive the ship. He served his job and fulfilled his responsibilities with utmost honesty and sincerity. I think this is why he has been called to provide his services in other world by supreme power. Though I have lost him physically but his soul is still with me in the form of his teachings which guide me and show me the right path. His biggest teaching - relationship does not define emotions but it is emotions that creates and strengthens a relationship. The large teary eyed crowd gathered to bid him goodbye itself speaks about the way others were connected emotionally with him and the respect he earned over the years.

On the thought of becoming a father, I always envisaged image of my father -Selfless, assiduous, prudent and responsible.  These are not mere adjectives but they are characteristics difficult to find in a single individual. 
I experienced fatherhood not once but twice but for very short period. And will savour these moments for ever. The moment i held my babies in my arms, we struck a chord. All the emotions- love, attachment, caring just ran across my body. I was not willing to let them go but the almighty had different plans. I was surprised with the persistence, patience, tolerence, and courage my bestest half showed in the face of adversity; certainly  this would have broken me if I were in her place. I can not imagine what she has gone through. The way she handled provided me required courage to deal with it and have strengthed our bond. She will be my hero for lifetime.

Sunday 21 April 2013

It is just not Cricket


Cricket is Passion and business is diluting this passion. Cricket emerged as unifying sport but business in cricket is dividing not only nation but national team. Cricket was played with the undying spirit of sportsmanship, now it is played with undying spirit of monetary gains. Where are we heading to?

Is this the game of cricket we were mad for? We worshipped for? Our heart beat for? We were familiar with? We were united for? Nah! This is not cricket in its purest form. How many of us remember the last time when whole family watched cricket together cheering up the team - perhaps the 2011 world cup finale. Our whole family used to pray, all of India used to stop and just admire cricket. I don’t think anyone admire cricket now, it has become a means of entertainment where players earn money for entertaining people and not for playing cricket in its truest sense. Every ball has some money written on it, if batsman smashes it for six, he earns that money and if bowler picks wicket he will be own that money. This is not restricted to only leagues but has spread to ODI’s. People used to take cricket as profession because they enjoyed playing it and they adored it but now people come in cricket because it is coolest means to earn money. Many of us would agree with me if I say that passion in cricket is gradually evaporating. Recently I read an article which said “Players who are not performing in IPL are not proving their worth for the price they were purchased for”. This is a proof in itself IPL is not cricket, players are not being encouraged to play cricket because they love the game, but are being encouraged to play cricket so that they keep earning huge through IPL. What message are we sending to to our new generation? A decade ago people used to say: “Bada ho kar mera beta Sachin banega aur desh ka naam roshan karega”. Soon they would say: “Bada ho kar mera beta IPL mein khalega aur Rich banega”.

Soon the definition of cricket in dictionary would change: Cricket is bat and ball business played between two (so-called) teams of 11 money lovers who play individually with the sole purpose to prove their worth and to secure their place, so that, they would satisfy their insatiate lust for money irrespective of how team performs as a whole.

For doing a reality check; let’s take money out of IPL and then see who all play cricket. They would be the true cricketers. It is said “Cricket is a gentleman’s game”; soon it would change to “Cricket is a businessman’s arena”. I know many would criticize me for this, but all would accept that the passion in (players) that used to be in 90’s has gradually declined.

People say IPL has given a lot to cricket to this I would say IPL is taking out cricket from cricket leaving the lust for money behind. Soon it would completely engulf ODI’s and Tests and destroy cricket from the root.




Monday 26 March 2012

Aakhir main bhi ek insaan hoon

Zindagi ke is safar mein
socha tha has khel kar zindagi bitayege
na kabhi kisi ko sateyege
har mushkil ka samna dat kar karege
aur na kabhi gam mahsus karege
par bhul gaya tha main, ki aakhir main bhi ek insaan hoon
aakhir main bhi ek insaan hoon

Bahen ko kiya tha itna tang, ladai karne ka karta tha itna maan
phir bhi uski vidai par na jane kyon ho gaye the aankhen naam
socha nahin tha yaad woh itni aayegi
palko par aasoon la kar bada rulayegi
seekha nahin tha abhi uske bin jeena
kyon laga upar waale ne mujh se kuch chheena
bhul gaya tha main ki aakhir main bhi ek insaan hoon
aakhir main bhi ek insaan hoon

socha the maine, abhi pade hai zindagi ke din hazar
puri zindagi kaam karne ke baad, ab nahin karna apne upar atyachar
bhul gaya tha main, ki samay ke is chakra mein
ek din thak har kar so jaoga main
bhul gaya tha main ki aakhir main bhi ek insaan hoon
aakhir main bhi ek insaan hoon

Wednesday 30 November 2011

SQUABBLE WITH THOUGHT


WHY ME? WHY ME ONLY? IS I A SCAPEGOAT chosen by GOD?  Have you ever asked these questions to yourself? Sure in this uncertain life one faces situations where these questions pop up. Same happened with me. I was wondering why it was going wrong. Loads of thinking bore no result. Many of us believe in the omnipotent that controls us like puppet. We question him for showing apathy towards us. Is he wrongly scripting our life or is he not in good mood while scripting it. Well, here lies the answer to all our questions.

A small exercise will help us find answer to these questions. Go in flashback mode, think of the happiest things happened to you. It could be as small as joy of cherishing an ice cream or as big as getting through IIMs or getting married to person whom you love. Now notice a common factor here, the STRUGGLE and PAIN you had to go through to achieve it – when as a small kid, you cried vociferously for an ice cream, the way you worked harder like an ASS to get into IIMs. What made these happiest moments “THE HAPPIEST MOMENTS” is the struggle, will power and pain associated with them. Here is the answer to all our questions. Our life is scripted in a way, to make us struggle to achieve our goal and ambition so that we can cherish the happiest moments which are hard earned and fought.

Don’t be disheartened or depressed by failures, it’s just that success needs little more hard work. Life throw many surprises, don’t give up on failures, success may be just round the corner. The Happiest moments are destined for you, you just have to be determined, focussed and patient. It’s just that the door to the wealth of happiness requires just an extra push. String of failures means something much better is destined for you what you had never imagined.

Ending it with a famous proverb by me:
You don’t get a happiest moment by luck, you earn it.

Saturday 18 June 2011

Cherish The Uncertainty


I wanna b lawyer! I wanna b doctor! I wanna b Pilot! I wanna give my parents so much happiness! I wanna make my parents proud! I wanna marry that girl! One has so many dreams and desires – some professional and some personal! Why one do not get everything one dream of? Why one is so much unhappy with his or her life? Why one’s dreams are meant to be broken? Why one has to suffer so much? So many questions running in my mind and I am wondering what I did wrong? Why it is happening with me? Why I am the only one who is unhappy? I have been good to everyone whole of my life, then why Me? Why me? Why am I being singled out by God?

So many questions to ponder? My mind is not stable. It is wandering in forest like a deer who lost his path. What to do? How to go to my destination, my aim, my goal? We regret for all this happening to us. Deer did not lose his hope and by his will power he overcame all obstacles to reach his path and he did it. If he hadn't lost path how would he got to know about his abilities, about his courage, about his will power, how would he have learnt so many valuable experiences. Same way, if there are no roadblocks, no failures how we will cherish our struggle, our will power, our dedication, our courage, our abilities. With each failure come a new experience, stronger will power, our hidden abilities and at last resulting in much more fruitful goal. Life is a learning process. Each new thing make you learn and teach you better way of achieving something. Just learn it, don’t regret and enjoy the journey of learning experience. One thing is certain in life and that is uncertainty. 
This uncertainty makes life enjoyable, challenging. Just cherish this uncertainty and learn from it.

Only one thing is important and that leads you to the path – Will Power

Ending with a very good saying-
Willpower is like a muscle, the more you use it, the larger it grows.

Saturday 28 May 2011

BURNING DESIRE - LET THE DESIRE BURN YOU OR YOU WILL GET BURNED

Desire – Not talking about swift desire but about the desire that we have in our heart. 
 Just as candle cannot burn without fire, a man cannot live without desire.

 Every one of us has some desires, wishes, aspirations, longings for something which is so dear to our heart.  Our dreams become our desire. But just desiring or dreaming or craving for something leads to what we want. Answer is Perfect NO. It is burning desire that matters. We say we failed but is that the end? No, it is one step closer to success. As we fail, our knack for “right actions” and good “judgement blossoms”. Each failure adds more fuel to your burning desire. Unless and until you don’t have burning desire you won’t succeed and even though if you succeed it will be a fake success. Burning desire has the will to overcome all the stumbling blocks, it shows you the path untraveled, it gives you courage you never dreamed of and it will ultimately lead you to success.

if everything is so easy, what is that stops us from converting our desire to burning desire. It can be one of these – our actions, our decisions or our fear – “Fear of failure” and one can overcome this fear by his/her beliefs. Your beliefs pave your way to success or block you. Get your beliefs and priorities right; actions will take care of other things. To keep yourself focus, just visualise one thing daily every morning – You have succeeded in your desire after working very hard and how it feels. Just let the feeling of success sink in for some time. This will keep you focussed.

Finishing with 2 finest quotes that perfectly fit in here:

Eleanor Roosevelt: It is better to light a candle than curse the darkness.

Here candle symbolises desire, light the candle to get a burning desire and remove the darkness of your thoughts.

Napoleon Hill: When your desires are strong enough, you will appear to possess superhuman powers to achieve.

Thursday 26 May 2011

Catch the drop or Drop the catch

At the age of 25, sitting in lush green lawn, relaxing, a cool gentle breeze making me more immobile. Someone whispered - Hey! I am here. I mystically asked- Who? Reply came - Opportunity! In no mood to leave the exquisite place I replied harshly - Sorry I am preoccupied. "Catch me or grab me, I will bring more joy and and delight than what you are experiencing now. I come only once, the one who grabs me, bear good fruits and one who loses me is left with arid and barren land to noodle around. Implant seeds now and enjoy shadow of trees in future." I just nodded and ignored. I kept on enjoying the weather and saw a rabbit doing the same. Next day, there was thunderstorm, sitting beside the closed window I saw the same rabbit running hither and thither looking for shelter. It was like an omen to me, making me realize if he had searched some shelter yesterday he would not have been in problem today. Its hard work of today that will bear fruits tom. I decided not to drop the catch but to catch every drop by both hands in future.

Today at the age of 70, sitting in lush green lawn, enjoying the shadow of trees and feeling the cool gentle breeze on my face as if taking away and evaporating all the sweat and pain that I bore. It was a feeling I never experienced before. It was the result of all the drops I caught, all the opportunities I grabbed, all the hard work I done. I was enjoying Sweetest fruits I bore in my whole life.On  this note ending it with a line from Hindi song-
Ek Baar Waqt Se Lamha Gira Kahin
Wahaan Dastan Mili Lamha Kahin Nahin
Thoda Sa Hasaake Thoda Sa Rulaake Pal Ye Bhi Jaanewala Hai

Dont let the Lamha fall nahin to bas dastan ban kar rah jayegi.